End of Life Doula
for those that
WILL DIE
SOMEDAY
A death doula is someone who offers support to dying individuals and their families through the process of dying. I provide emotional, spiritual, and practical assistance at the end of life, and work to achieve the ending that suits your unique character.
ABOUT DOULA WORK
As a doula I do not heal or fix, but rather provide support, companionship, and a safe space for exploring and experiencing your own journey through the process of dying.
The work of a death doula can begin at any point in a person’s life, but most often people seek help after being diagnosed with a terminal illness, as they approach the final days of life, or after the death of a loved one — for support in grieving.
What does a death doula do?
Accompanies individuals and their families through the process of dying.
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Helps you to explore the meaning of life and death and your beliefs.
Helps prepare legacies and memories.
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Offers attentive presence at the bedside of the dying.
Provides an open and honest space to discuss death.
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Assists in preparing an end-of-life plan.
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Offers practical support to the loved ones of a deceased person.
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Creates a non-judgmental space for you to express any emotions, thoughts, or experiences.
Explains the signs and symptoms of dying.
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Provides respite to allow the loved ones of the dying to rest.
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Supports care of the body after death and advises on spiritual practices.
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Assists in organizing funerals and farewell rituals.
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Works with fear of death.
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Combines traditions and new rituals to mark the transition from life to death.
When to seek help
from a death doula
People turn to death doulas for practical and spiritual support during one of life’s most vulnerable moments, the process of dying and grieving. This support helps explore and find an authentic path at the end of life, understand near-death processes, and engage more consciously with death.
If you or a loved one has been diagnosed with a terminal illness.
If you're supporting an elderly relative.
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If you want to prepare for your death.
If you feel the need to explore your relationship with death.
What does a doula session look like?
The format of a doula session depends on the client’s request. Sessions can be conducted online or in-person and typically last 1 to 1.5 hours. During these sessions, the doula and the client explore the client’s most important questions.
Another format is bedside attendance, where I will visit your home and stay continuously by the dying person’s side for an extended period. In some cases I work with a team of doulas to provide uninterrupted care.
I do not prescribe how to die or grieve, but instead offer freedom of choice.
A death doula does not require a medical or psychological education. We are called to this role through a genuine interest in and compassion towards others.
End of Life Preparation Checklist
Discuss with loved ones what to do with the body after death - cremate, bury in a coffin, bury naturally or another option.
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Think and decide for yourself whether the dying person is comfortable with the ritual of washing the body. If so, who can do it and how.
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Discuss with with the dying person if they would like to be buried or cremated, what kind of coffin they want, what kind of funeral, what kind of wreath and words on the tombstone. If it is not important to them, then make sure that someone close to them knows that they can make such decisions on their own and not feel guilty or doubtful about how the dying person would really like it.
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Relatives are informed about the state of affairs of the dying person: debts, savings, location of important documents. If the dying person so wishes, then access to their digital data is transferred in advance: passwords, logins, instructions on what to do with social networks after their death.
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If the dying person is concerned about how his property and belongings will be disposed of after death, then he was helped to record his wishes.
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What's included in the package?Every family has such varying needs and I work closely with the family to fill the support they require. With that in mind, here is a rough outline of what I offer: Together will we discuss your intentions and wishes for the birth so we can make a plan of your preferences and have some back up options too. I will share all the relevant up-to-date information medical and local hospital policies for in order for you to be able to make the right informed choices for you. Email, phone and messaging support to answer any questions and offer additional support. Home visits to provide in-person care and gentle holistic treatments. I'll provide continuous emotional, spiritual and physical support during that time. Together we will create a safe and protected space for you and your family.
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Do you help with infant feeding?Yes absolutely. I have training and have breastfed my children. I work with local breastfeeding counsellors and can refer you if needed. I like to think there's not much we can't solve between us. I have homeopathic remedies to hand which can help with milk supply, heal cracked nipples and support many common physical and emotional issues after birth.
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Where are you based?I live in Patcham on the outskirts of Brighton. I have a car and can travel anywhere in and around Brighton and Hove easily. I often work within a 25 mile radius of Brighton also.
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How can I contact you?Please send me an email at blessedstar@protonmail.com or send a text to 07816831205 While working with you my phone will always be with me for you to email, call or text. I will always aim to get back to you within an hour or two.
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Do you have insurance?Yes, I have insurance for my Doula services and all the alternative therapies I offer.